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Go Get My Children…

Brothers & Sisters, do not grow weary. We must keep fighting the good fight until He returns. Jesus, coming in the clouds will be a terrifying shock for some, and a long awaited, sigh of relief for God’s children. So much hate, evil, and war in this world… It can’t be very long now, but only God knows the hour…Lets thank Him for blessing our country with the freedoms that we have, and pray that our nation will not fall—that He won’t give up on America, though it seems to really be giving up on Him. God bless everyone today.

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3 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was Single

"Loneliness isn't fixed by surrounding yourself with more people." Lysa TerKeurst // www.incourage.me

Here I have shared the image & exact article by author Lysa TerKeurst via her blog. I only copied and pasted because I know that not everyone clicks on these links, and I really think you just might find this beneficial…comforting…enlightening!

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So here we go…


I remember the hardest day of the week for me when I was single was Sunday. Specifically Sunday right after church.

Many of my other single friends would have plans with their families that day, but not me. My family lived 9 hours away.

So, I’d walk through the parking lot watching young moms ooh and ahh over Sunday school artwork and I’d think, “Their lives seem so blissfully full.

I’d walk past an older couple holding hands and think, “They are so lucky to have such an easy, breezy life.

I’d walk past a gal walking arm in arm with her boyfriend and think, “She is so fortunate to feel loved.

And then I’d get in my car and decide happiness, fulfillment, and contentment were something to hope for in the future, when I found the life I desperately wanted.

Boy, do I wish I could go sit in that car beside my single self and tell her some life-giving truths I now know.

1. Loneliness isn’t fixed by surrounding yourself with more people.

Sure, having people to go grab lunch with after church is great. And having the built-in companionship of your own family is wonderful. But it hasn’t fixed my struggles with loneliness like I thought it would.

Some of the loneliest women I know wear wedding rings.

I had to learn to enjoy life without being dependent on someone else to create the fun for me. That way I could bring the fun. I could bring the interesting conversation starters. And I could start to better discern the kinds of people who would get me.

What are those things you truly love spending time doing, creating, or researching? Invest your lonely moments there. Create life-giving experiences around your unique passions. After all, people are attracted to others who are full of life.

2. Learn from the pitfalls in friendships.

If only I would have dared to really look, I could have seen patterns of pitfalls in my relationships. Some of the same relationship struggles I had in my single friendships quickly popped up in my marriage.

Being a little more self-aware of how I contributed to frustrations in friendships would have helped me work on having a healthier marriage even before I met my husband.

I could have learned valuable self-improvements like taming my spontaneity a tad, remembering that not everyone likes to talk before the sun comes up, and working to not interpret everything with way more emotion than necessary. Just to name a few.

I absolutely would have encouraged my single self to make good use of those hard friendship moments by learning — really learning — from them.

3. Stop expecting perfection.

All those people I was watching those Sunday afternoons weren’t living perfect lives. They were having a moment of perfection in the midst of very imperfect relationships.

None of those moms were perfect moms. None of those couples were perfect couples. None of those families were perfect families.

I obviously know this with my head. But sometimes my heart gets tripped up looking for perfection and missing what’s really good.

Single self, realize perfection doesn’t exist on this side of eternity, and it’s exhausting to chase something that doesn’t exist.

So, look at relationships through the lens of grace. Instead of asking, “Is this the perfect relationship I’ve dreamed about?” ask, “Is this a person with whom I can both give and receive grace?”

Sundays are no longer the hardest days of the week for me. But it wasn’t because I got married and had kids.

It’s because I finally learned how to bring the joy I wanted to experience, became a healthier version of me, and stopped chasing perfection.


Hope this article leaves you with some insight.

Remember, you are not alone this Valentine’s Day…God bless.

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Deliver Me

There is hope. There is so much more. We just have to be willing to let the light in. To open ourselves up to the possibility, to the very thought that we are worthy. We were created by a Higher Power. His name is God.  And no matter how strong the pain, opening the eyes of our hearts and seeking the truth, it is then that we find…

The way to Heaven is in Jesus, the Son.

*I created this poster with lyrics by Matt Maher & Google images.

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Motivational Monday!!!

Have a wonderful day, everyone!

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When I Wanna Be Somebody else…

When I wanna be somebody else sometimes, thinking there are far bigger and better things than what I do, I listen to my heart. I was created in this particular way for the particular things I do. It is truly the work of Satan that tries to distract me, make me look away at what others are doing. Some of us drive luxury cars. Some of us are Buy-Here-Pay-Here people.  Some women wear designer brands while some shop bargains. We are told how to look, what kind of wife or girlfriend we are, and what success really is…all by the media & society. There are many 4 letter words in this crazy world, but Love is the only one that changes everything, holding truth, holding future.

We are all created unique for what God has called us to do on an individual level for His Great Plan, called Life. Its difficult and can be really upsetting and confusing. Our faith is really tried in this chaotic world. Let us remember who we are, embrace our personal talents, and instead of covet…just love it.

I love this quote below:

“Remember: Satan is a cruel manipulator. He desires for God’s girls to get ensnared and distracted by competing and comparing. The more we look around and jockey for a position that’s better than the girl standing next to us, the less we remember God’s assignment for us. And that’s exactly what the enemy wants.

Our calling is never to “one up” the next girl. It is to raise up the name of Jesus and live His truths in an authentic way.”Lysa TerKeurst

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Jealousy: A Poison to both Mind & Body

Recently, I began thinking about how much time I spent in my younger years of life (and even now) looking at the lives of others, seeing how green their grass was as opposed to mine…

Taking the time to open the eyes of my heart and  addressing the blessings of another creates an awareness of jealousy. I’ve found that once we analyze this we can easily see the humanness behind it all. We see our insecurities, fears, and the comparison of our lives to those of others (which is pointless and only encouraged by evil to ultimately destroy us with the hardening of the heart). The feelings of anger and frustration steal our joy. If this isn’t addressed to be taken care of, all of the potential inside of us, along with our very own gifts is waste.

The amount of energy put into the concern of some other person’s success, blessings, and the fruits of their labor could be used to accomplish things in our own lives.

So, be yourself, changing the world in the way that only you can!

I know that I need to be vocal and take action to express my delight in the success of others. I must keep my eyes fixed on my own homework, as copying leads to failure. I need to practice selflessness, thanking God for it all in praise and prayers of gratitude. In being observant of the needs of others, and not mine alone, I will live a far more fulfilling life. The peace is like nothing else.

God bless, dear friends.

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Turning My Back. On FAT.

ImageThis is something I have struggled with for years. Even at barely over 100lbs I struggled as I carried and stored fat on the sides of my back. This made the whole bikini thing impossible. However, after so much time has gone by, and research done, it IS possible to shrink, minimize and make this nearly go away! Once I get closer to my goal weight I will be sure to share any tricks or helpful tips to fine tune such things. This image really hits home. I struggle with my sides and back. I am not afraid to say it, either. I have never been more alive, honest, and healthy in the mind at least!

REMEMBER:

Image Friends, lets not beat ourselves up for a few extra calories a day, or an extra snack or 2. We just need to learn from the happenings of one day and apply our knowledge along with positive actions to do better the next day, or chance, as the power is always in the present moment! When life throws you negative thoughts, and body hate thoughts especially, just let it roll of your shoulder. You are getting there, one day at a time. You are a precious soul and you deserve pure and true happiness. As I have mentioned before, life to too short to spend even one moment hating on your body. We have these unique and different bodies for a reason, and it is society that tells us, and our youth that only ONE type of physique is ideal!!! As an eating-disorder advocate, this drives me nuts! We just have to counter society, ya know. We gotta show them just how REAL we really are 😉

Image <———–It takes time and effort to go from this image and body type….

To this one —–> ImageOf Course there is a big discrepancy here, and that’s because we cannot lose it all over night. It has taken me 5 years to become morbidly obese, and I am hoping to make 2014 MY most successful year ever in the world of weight loss and the feat of keeping the lost weight off. Its going to happen, I just know it…I am walking/dance-walking around 5-6 days a week for 30 minutes. I have worked my way up to this slowly after breaking a toe in November. We tend to look at people and think WOW, they have it made, look how in shape they are! I know I do, at least. In doing so, I am not considering the work that person puts in, the hours at the gym, the sweat, and tears, and nor do I consider their own personal struggles with body image or perhaps even an eating disorder–or what even goes on in their life. It is a fact that everyone in this world is fighting some sort of battle.

My challenge for you guys tonight, is to get a good night’s rest! If you are like me and need to lose weight for health reasons and your own self esteem purposes etc.. Get your rest tonight, forget the worries, and sleep well. Then, when the sun rises tomorrow, get up and kick some ass! 😉

Much love,

Mandi

 

*Images 1,3 and 4 via Google Images, image 2, source displayed on image.