YOU ARE NOT OVER! THE LORD JESUS LOVES YOU AND IS WAITING WITH OPEN ARMS!!!
YOU ARE NOT OVER! THE LORD JESUS LOVES YOU AND IS WAITING WITH OPEN ARMS!!!
He’s my Answer. He’s the bear-hug I need after a horrible letdown. Though I can’t feel Him against my skin, I feel Him deep inside my soul. It’s a closeness that can’t be described-instead it must be felt first hand.
His love is unending and truly unconditional. He will never leave me or betray me. I am 100% guaranteed that He has my back 24/7 and I can call Him anytime of day or night without disturbing Him. In fact, He delights in hearing from me. He is jealous for me. He loves when I take time out of my day to spend even a few minutes with Him.
Nobody else in this world could ever understand me the way He does. He always knows exactly what I’m thinking and why I do the things I do. Even when I break His heart or fail Him, He loves me still. He is ever forgiving. I can’t count the times I’ve come back running into His arms.
He adores me. He would give His life for me.
In fact…He already did.
I am free from addiction, no longer a slave to it. I am no longer the rejected. My life has purpose and I have a true reason to live. Oh, at what a little faith can do… Only by His Blood was I set free…It all died with Him.
What if you cry out His Name?
I promise He will meet you right where you are.
Post by Lynn Cowell
The gate called Beautiful might be the scale we hope will tell us the right number, the gym we join to become the right size or the mall we cruise through looking for the right outfit.
We go to the gate Beautiful and there we beg for what we need for that day: acceptance, approval and affirmation. It’s not enough to sustain us, though. Tomorrow, searching again, we’ll return.
With the power of the Holy Spirit we can say: “No more!” No more will we beg when Christ died to give us the acceptance we need. Let’s take His hand and look to Him each day for strength and approval.
You are perfect just the way God made you. That’s enough. You’re enough, precious one.
There’s Living Water at the Fountain of Christ for all!
No discrimination. Everyone’s welcome.
Awesome and inspiring video, listen to the song below.
Think on this, dear one!
“Sweet friend, I know how it feels to want to completely shut down when life gets challenging and things happen that we don’t understand. But if we pull away from praying, reading our Bible and going to church in hard times – we just suffer. If we stay committed to doing those things that keep us connected with God, we will experience an intimacy and power in the midst of our suffering we can’t get any other way.”
I love this woman! I feel like somebody I’ve never met, completely gets me!
I found Recovery from Bulimia at 22, I’m almost 30. I purchased the book below in an attempt to find some extra Divine Inspiration in the struggling going on in my life…and boy, was this book from God!!!
Here’s the book & description from the website Proverbs31.org
This book is not a how-to manual or the latest, greatest dieting plan, Made To Crave is a helpful companion to use alongside whatever healthy eating approach you choose-a book and Bible study to help you find the “want to” in how to make healthy lifestyle changes.
Join Lysa and experience all that you were made to crave!
Yes! Why didn’t I think of that? haha
I CAN satisfy my deepest desire with God and not food!
The world may tell us we don’t measure up, but God says we are fearfully and wonderfully made. It’s taken me from adolescence up until now to realize that the people who we idolize and set the bar for beauty in women, the standard and sex appeal…are NOT the kind of people we should really be taking advice from. Some of them don’t seem to be the kind of friend I would even want to have. Ever think of that?
You are priceless, dear one.
By Claire Trainor
“On February 2, 2015, Lacey Smarr lost her life to a heart attack caused by anorexia. Her eating disorder was brought on by teasing from her peers and went undiagnosed by medical professionals and psychologists, despite her numerous doctor’s visits. She was 15 years old, a sophomore in high school living in Texas.
When I first was asked to write this piece by my editor, I didn’t know how. This is a piece that should never have to be written because it is about an event that should never have happened. But it did and it affects hundreds, if not thousands, of lives. So, here is my attempt at an article for everyone Lacey’s death has affected.
To the news sources covering Lacey’s death: There is more to an eating disorder than weight. Her demise from a healthy weight to an unhealthy one is not an indication of her sickness. To put emphasis only on the numbers of her illness contributes to the idea that you have to be “skeletal” to be sick. People die from their eating disorders at every weight and for a variety of reasons. Lacey was, and is, more than a number and her disorder was, and is, more complex than a low BMI. To make coverage about only the physical symptoms of her illness is to take away from the pain endured mentally, and to take away from the pain of the thousands of sufferers who are not “skeletal.”
To those who bullied her for her body: We should always be careful what we say to others. Especially when others are vulnerable and impressionable teenage girls. Even when we don’t mean to cause pain, we might. But this is not your fault. One comment is not enough to cause this much suffering. Eating disorders are complex biopsychosocial illnesses. It is not your fault. I promise. Be careful what you say to others, but please don’t blame yourself for Lacey’s feelings. It will do no good, for you or for her.
To the medical professionals who overlooked her symptoms: Teenagers are cunning and wonderful at fooling people. Those with eating disorders are perhaps even better. Still, I cannot begin to say how important a good medical team is in treating illnesses. Having medical professionals and psychologists who can recognize these lies is crucial in saving lives every day. The system needs to be better trained to respond to cases like Lacey’s. This was not the fault of an individual: it was the fault of everyone who stands by and did nothing. If Lacey didn’t want to be treated, there is an excellent chance that she could have fooled you out of a diagnosis.
To her friends: I cannot begin to imagine the pain you’re experiencing just weeks after your friend’s early passing. Those suffering often withdraw from their friends and peers, especially in high school. If this happened with Lacey, it doesn’t mean she didn’t love you. It didn’t mean she didn’t want to be there. She just didn’t know how. It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay to miss her. It’s okay to be confused and scared and unsure. You lost a friend and healing will take time.
To her family: Everyone here at Proud2BMe is incredibly sorry for your loss. I cannot fathom the feelings you have been experiencing since Lacey’s passing. But I can say that she was lucky to have parents who took her to the doctor and who tried as hard as they could to help her. She is lucky to have parents who continue to love and fight against eating disorders in her name. It’s so incredibly hard to detect the signs of an eating disorder, especially when the person suffering is trying to hide it. She may not have vocalized it, but I’m sure she was grateful to have people who loved her and continue to love her as much as you do.
To everyone suffering from an eating disorder: Help is available. Recovery is possible. There are few things in life scarier than being trapped inside your own head with an illness whose goal is to destroy you. One of the scarier things, for me at least, was recovery. And it’s a battle, every day. But it’s worth it. In the end, it’s worth being honest with the doctors, with your friends, with your family, and with yourself. I promise recovery is worth the pain.
And to Lacey: You are loved. By those in your life and by strangers across the country who mourn your death. I did not know you and I will never have the pleasure of knowing you. But after reading the page your family set up for you, I know you were a kind, brilliant, compassionate, empathetic, and beautiful human being. I am sorry the system failed you. I am sorry that your eating disorder’s hold was so strong. Rest in peace.
Eating disorders have the highest mortality rates of any mental illness. In order to help raise awareness for the early symptoms, Lacey’s mom, Candy Miller, created the Lacey Foundation. The foundation will help not only to raise awareness, but also to help connect those suffering and their families with treatment opportunities, doctors, and psychologists. More can be heard from her mom below.”
For everyone who knew Lacey, I am so sorry for your loss. May Lacey rest in peace forever.
Photo via here
About this blogger: Claire Trainor is a freshman at DePaul University majoring in Creative Writing and Psychology. In steady recovery from an eating disorder, she wants to educate, support, and inspire those struggling in anyway. She likes her dogs, hot chocolate, and books. Claire currently runs a personal recovery blog.
Also by Claire:
While we still have a long way to go in terms of understanding Eating disorders, I believe we have progressed.
Many of us get that “Eating disorders aren’t about food or weight” because it’s the number one phrase that gets shouted from the rooftops by Eating disorder sufferers & Eating disorder support organisations (for good reason) it was/is such a damaging misconception. But what many people still don’t understand, is what they ARE actually about.
I feel like people avoid talking about what Eating disorders are about because they are SO complex, there are often many, many layers, an accumulation of different factors. It gets complicated. The most common phrase I hear…“I know that Eating disorders aren’t about food or weight…it’s about control.” Yeah. Often this is the case, the desire for control is hugely common but it’s a terribly over simplified explanation. The reasons behind the disorder are as individual as the sufferer him/herself, so it’s risky territory listing possible causes…But I’m writing this in the hope that it helps to broaden understanding of this illness and to shed some light into some of the darker, less spoken about underlying issues.
It’s not about food or weight…It’s about feeling unsafe in the world. It’s about feeling like we can’t trust anyone, not even ourselves. The Eating Disorder becomes “the reliable one”.
It’s about the feelings we can’t verbalize, that can’t be expressed through words so we try to “say” it with our bodies.
It’s about an extreme, intense feeling of being inadequate. Like nothing we do or say or feel is “right”. “Not thin enough” often means something more painful to admit. That we are not enough. full stop.
It’s about feeling overwhelmed by life. Like nothing makes sense. Nothing is simple. The Eating Disorder gives us a sense of calm…to an outsider our life may look like it is in absolute chaos but it gives us the false sense of security we so desperately need. Problems that seem too big and complicated to deal with, feelings that are uncomfortable to sit with; the Eating Disorder provides us with simple, concrete answers to our distress. Our bodies are the problem and we need to fix the problem by losing weight.
It’s about needing to feel loved and comforted but feeling unworthy of real love and comfort. It’s about hating having needs and desires. For some of us, needs make us feel greedy and selfish. For some of us, having needs means we can easily get hurt if those needs are not met. For some of us, we don’t believe we deserve to have our needs met. We try to convince ourselves that we don’t need anything by avoiding food, one of our greatest primal needs.
It’s about having low self esteem. It’s about more than that, it’s about self hatred. A self hatred that could be there for another huge list of reasons. Our trust may have been broken by a loved one, we may have been abused: emotionally, physically, sexually. We may have done things we deeply regret. We may blame ourselves for painful experiences that have happened in our lives. We may not even know why that self hatred is there but we feel it in our core. It’s something so deep down, something in us that we believe to be dark, dangerous and disgustingly horrible. We believe we are “bad” people and deserve to be punished. We starve, purge, binge and excessively exercise because we feel like we deserve to die a slow and painful death. We deserve this miserable life.
It’s about debilitating anxiety and/or depression that we struggle to deal with so we use the Eating Disorder to cope. Some of us spend years swinging between depression and the Eating Disorder, when one gets better, the other gets worse.
It’s about being paralysed by perfectionism. In every sense of the word. Many of us have obsessive compulsive personalities and expectations that are so high we constantly feel like we are failing. We put ridiculous amounts of pressure on ourselves to be “the best”. We compare ourselves to everyone around us and constantly feel like we are falling behind.
It’s about the disgust we have for our bodies. Some of us have been teased and shamed for our weight by kids in the school yard, brothers or sisters, mothers or fathers. Some of us feel embarrassed by our changing bodies as we go through puberty. Some of us blame our bodies for acts of violation committed against us. Somehow, our bodies have betrayed us.
It’s about the environment we grew up in. Some of us grew up witnessing the messy divorce of our parents, some of us experienced the death of an important loved one, some of us were foster children, moved from household to household. Some of us were bullied for being poor or bullied for being rich. Some of us grew up in chaotic households. For some of us, our parents were distant, for others our parents were overbearing and overprotective.
It’s about secrecy and silence. We are all silently screaming for something. Love, help, escape, forgiveness, support, comfort. We use our bodies and behaviours to communicate instead of our voices.
It’s about fear. We are afraid of growing up, afraid of staying young. Afraid of our future, afraid of our past. Some of us are afraid of failure, some of us are afraid of success. Afraid of being too much or not enough. Some of us are scared we will not be brilliant or amazing or unique or rich or famous or inspiring or important or seen…or LOVED. We are afraid we will never find someone who will love us, unconditionally and some of us are afraid we will. Some of us are afraid of both. It’s these contradictions that can make life so confusing and scary and difficult to deal with.
It’s about holding onto something that gives us an identity. We are afraid that without the Eating Disorder, we are nothing. In some weird way, we think it makes us strong. We believe our Eating Disorder masks our fear, our shame, our vulnerability. The things, we believe, make us weak.
It’s about painful feelings and our belief that we are unable to deal with them so we use the Eating Disorder to numb the sadness, anger, hurt, shame, guilt, hopelessness, fear etc.
It’s about being an extremely sensitive soul. We feel things deeply and intensely. We are effected by others emotions easily and often take on their pain. Others feelings and problems become ours. We are emotionally reactive, we cry at the drop of a hat, the daily news makes our heart hurt and our mood plummet. We take things personally and over think E V E R Y T H I N G. We feel the weight of the world on our shoulders, like it is our responsibility to save it (the world).
It’s about subconsciously internalising the “Western Beauty Ideal” we are faced with day in day out. It’s about being bombarded with advertising that is constantly telling us we are not good enough.
It’s about loneliness. Like we don’t fit in or belong anywhere. Like no one understands us. Like we are somehow completely different to the rest of the human population. It doesn’t matter how many friends or family we have around us, this is a loneliness, an emptiness that we believe cannot be filled.
It’s about survival. It helped us to survive and cope with some horrific and painful life experiences.
It’s about being passive. Many of us, put others first at a huge cost to our own health and happiness. We say yes when we mean no and no when we mean yes. We struggle with being assertive and as a result often get taken advantage of. This only feeds into our unworthiness.
It’s about privacy, having something that is ours and only ours. Something no one else can touch.
It’s not about weight, but for some of us, it is. However, not in the way you’d think. Some of us want to shrink so that we become invisible. We want to become as small as we feel. We want to hide away. Our shrinking body becomes a metaphor for our shrinking soul. Some of us, want to become bigger so we can hide behind our weight. So that our body fat becomes our protection. So we become “undesirable” to men or women. So we don’t have to face relationships or intimacy or our sexuality. Things that terrify us. Our bodies reflect how we feel about ourselves on the INSIDE. What drains our spirit, drains our body.
It’s about being in so much emotional pain that you can’t even begin to allow yourself to feel it or acknowledge it, the pain the eating disorder brings seems like a blessing in comparison. We use the Eating Disorder to avoid and distract ourselves from all the things that are really going on, inside. More often than not, it’s an accumulation of any number of these thoughts, feelings, beliefs and experiences and there is bound to be plenty of other influencing factors that I haven’t listed. Everyone is different.This is just a list of some of the more common causes that I know of from experience living with my own Eating Disorder and being close to many others who have Eating disorders, it is by NO means the ‘absolute’ list.
Please also know that insight into these reasons takes time in therapy and a lot of self reflection and personal development…a sufferer doesn’t make a conscious decision to develop an Eating Disorder so they can avoid feeling emotional pain, for example. This is all going on subconsciously. The Eating Disorder masks all of this and convinces us that our only problem is that we are fat.
So if someone you care about is struggling with an Eating Disorder, instead of telling them to “just eat”, ask them what they believe is behind their Eating Disorder and don’t take “I’m just fat” as a valid answer…because that is NEVER the answer. No matter how strongly they feel that in the moment, it almost always goes much deeper than that.
Help us stop the silence. Let’s start talking about this on a deeper, less superficial level. One of the most important steps towards recovery involves allowing us to explore and express our own personal stories. We need to understand why we have developed an Eating Disorder and how it serves us before we have any hope of true recovery.
This post is an exact COPY from The Healing Nest on Tumblr.
This post is not mine, I claim no rights to it. I’m just amazed by the truth within the writing here.
Since I began struggling with my eating disorder at 16, found Recovery at 22, and up until now…This is just the most amazing way to explain what it’s like for us all. For everyone in the midst of the pain and the eating disorder in this moment, for anyone who wants to understand, or perhaps you would like to help them better understand you…this is by far the best thing I’ve ever found. Just…Wow.
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You’re not alone, precious one.